If no matter how hard you try, things keep going out of control… it’s not you, it’s your system reacting to unresolved trauma
You work on yourself. You try to do things differently…
but when something gets triggered, it takes over.
Anxiety. Shutdown. Anger. Fear. Thoughts that won’t stop.
And the feeling that you’ve let yourself down again.
This isn’t a lack of control.
It’s your system reacting to something deeper.
I created a free and very easy mini-course where you'll discover:
How unresolved trauma may be influencing your reactions.
Identify the patterns and root behind your emotional responses.
Create a personal plan to start changing them.
6 mini-lessons (1 per day) + practical exercises and tips delivered to your email so you start noticing real changes from the very first week.
Understand Your Trauma.
And How to Work on Yourself.
It’s Not Your Fault that Nothing Seems to Stick
Your body and mind react automatically to trauma that is still living in your system.
You can feel it in your body:
a knot in your chest or throat, constant tension, exhaustion that never goes away.
Like something gripping tight that doesn't let you go.
And then it happens:
You freeze up and miss opportunities.
You react with anger, anxiety, or fear before you can stop yourself.
You go back to relationships or jobs that drain you.
That’s why, even when you try your best with courses, meditations, therapy, or sheer willpower …
the anxiety, tension, guilt, and exhaustion keep coming back.
Your frustration builds up as you see yourself stagnant, while your self-trust drops.
And you no longer know what to do anymore.
It’s not a lack of willpower or self-sabotage. It’s trauma.
Your system is busy reacting unconsciously. That is why nothing sticks.
What nobody has told you:
There are different types of trauma. Each one affects how you think, feel, and act.
When you understand what type of trauma is behind what’s happening to you, you stop trying solutions that don’t treat the root cause.
And you start living with more clarity and confidence. Without repeating the same patterns.
Left Alone, Trauma Only Gets Worse
From the outside, people might label you as weak, undisciplined, stupid, lazy, or cold.
Many will tell you “just try harder”, "just don't think about it" or “it’s your own fault.”
That is why most people try to deal with the symptoms through courses, affirmations, or by pushing themselves even more.
It only deals with the symptoms. The real mess is still under the rug.
These “self-diagnoses” are rarely right. They don’t fix the real problem.
And on top of that, they reinforce the stigma, the guilt, and the frustration.
If there is trauma, letting your system manage itself and waiting for trauma to disappear won’t heal it.
And trying to face it all at once, or exposing yourself to more than your system can handle, can be re-traumatizing.
It drains you and reinforces the very patterns you want to change.
In the meantime, your system keeps running unconscious survival strategies: pushing you to do things that seem to work for a moment.
And you end up trapped in a cycle of self-sabotage and frustration.
Without the right support and approach, you might find yourself facing:
Thoughts and emotions that feel completely out of control.
Growing hopelessness and exhaustion, with your self-esteem at an all-time low.
Strained, draining relationships that put your partner, friendships, and job at risk if nothing changes.
But most of all: not healing the trauma reinforces those unconscious survival strategies. It moves you further and further away from the life you want.
Adding more weight to carry, making the road steeper, and narrowing your options and quality of life.
What If You Could Understand What’s Really Going On And Start Moving Forward Without Falling Back?
What’s happening to you is much more common than you think.
Studies show that around 70% of people have experienced at least a traumatic event in their life, and more than 60% went through difficult experiences in childhood that leave a mark on how they think, feel, and react.
The problem isn’t just what’s happening to you. It’s not understanding what’s causing it.
Because it has solution.
When you identify and work on your trauma from the root:
Anxiety and intense emotions stop overwhelming you.
Your mind stops working against you and starts giving you support and clarity.
Your relationship with yourself and others improves.
You stop being stuck and start making progress without falling back into old patterns.
You get your control, confidence, and sense of safety back.
Here I have to be honest with you.
Years of carrying trauma don’t get fixed overnight.
The solution isn’t complicated, but it takes effort and consistency on your part. When you identify the root of the problem you stop going in blind and start working on what your system actually needs.
In this free course, you’ll discover if trauma is at the root of what you're going through, and how to start working on it, step by step, without getting overwhelmed.
What You’ll Learn in this 6-Lesson Free Course:
1. Learn what Trauma Really is and How it Develops beyond what you’ve been told. You’ll identify whether your reactions come from trauma, and from which “part” of yourself you’re actually operating.
2. Discover the Trauma Responses: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and find out what your system is trying to protect you from with your reactions and unconscious survival strategies.
3. Types of Trauma. You’ll see which type of trauma is at the root of your patterns (rejection, abandonment, lack of protection, etc.), where it comes from, and what your system needs. Not all trauma is the same.
4. Creating the Right Conditions for Healing: Understand the foundational conditions to heal, sustain your growth without relapsing, and how to apply the 3 keys in your daily life: managing your energy, self-regulation, and avoiding stress triggers.
5. How to Process Trauma Safely: Learn what leads to processing trauma and how you can work safely on yourself. With a practical technique that won’t overwhelm you or push your system past its limits.
6. Integration: Create your own plan to keep moving forward rewiring your system without losing your way. Rebuilding trust in yourself and building a way of living that’s aligned with your healthy self.
Plus, with each lesson you’ll receive a downloadable workbook to work through the content, guiding you to create your own personalized plan.
I’ve Been Where You Are Now
I watched others move forward in their careers, their relationships, their lives…
while everything felt three times harder for me. I tried everything, but I always found myself repeating the same patterns and mistakes.
Everything changed when at a workshop I learned something nobody had ever explained to me.
It wasn’t a lack of discipline, that I was stupid, or that something was broken in me.
It was trauma.
In my case, complex trauma (CPTSD).
When I started working on it with professionals, I began to feel more calm and steady in situations that used to completely overwhelm me.
While working through my trauma, I was able to start a company, be featured in the media, and win international awards… From a place of clarity and personal confidence I had never felt before.
But healing wasn’t a straight line.
Even with those achievements,
I pushed myself harder and beat myself up when I failed.
I worked for years without stopping until I burned out. There were moments when I had no financial stability and nowhere to live.
And unknowingly I kept repeating toxic relationships and dynamics that hurt me…
as if something stronger than me was taking over.
Because I didn’t know how to bring the healing from the therapy room into my everyday life.
At my lowest point, I knew I had to rebuild myself from scratch.
That’s when I understood what changed everything: it’s not enough to process the trauma.
You also need to integrate it: rebuild how you live, how you react, and your healthy identity.
If you don’t, your system goes back to what it knows: the old patterns.
Then everything started to shift.
I was able to build a loving, healthy relationship.
I went from working in a theatre to becoming the director of a maritime company.
And I started sleeping well at night again.
For the first time… I felt like I was living a life that was truly mine.
And I wanted to help others in this journey too.
That led me to earn a postgraduate degree in psychotrauma,
and I am now completing my registration as an IoPT trauma therapist in Norway, where I live.
Today I support people through trauma recovery processes,
combining professional training with the experience of having walked this path myself.
Because when you work through your trauma the right way…
life can change far more than you can imagine.
Warmly welcome,
Carlos Garces.
Testimonials from this Work
A deep sense of relief and clarity.
I feel grounded and trust myself while finally moving forward.
— How Clients describe it.
Melissa Koay
Consultant
I got to a permanent embodied feeling shift in my safety and security in myself, and because of that I was able to attract the healthy relationship. Now it is easy to show up in the way that I want to, healthy and securely, while being myself.
Sarah Welch
Teacher and musician
I used to get so frustrated very easily. But now that is gone. Now I see things coming and my emotions remain more balanced. It has helped me improve the relationship with my partner and work colleagues. I feel more confident and I now enjoy the small things in live.
G. K.
I always had a chip on my shoulder. I thought I was very analytical and high performing. But now I have my thoughts more on my side. I can perform better, take better decisions and feel more at ease.
Film Production & Marketing
Common Questions
Do I need to have been through something really serious to have trauma?
No. Trauma isn't only about big, dramatic events. It can come from years of emotional neglect, feeling unseen, unstable relationships, or growing up in an unpredictable environment. If your reactions feel bigger than the situation, or always show up no matter what you try, trauma may be involved.
I've tried therapy before and it didn't work. How is this different?
This mini course doesn't replace therapy. It helps you understand what's actually happening in your system. Many people spend years in therapy without knowing what type of trauma they're dealing with or how to apply it to daily life. That's exactly what this course addresses. If you’re considering trauma therapy, check the link in the top menu.
Is this only for people in crisis?
Not at all. Most people who benefit from this are functioning day to day. But feel stuck, exhausted, or like something is quietly holding them back. You don't need to be at rock bottom to start understanding yourself better.
If you are in crisis check the link in the top menu for trauma therapy or call a local emergency support line.
How much time does each lesson take?
Each mini-lesson is designed to be short and practical, something you can go through in your own time, one per day. It is a maximum 5 minute video and maximum 10 minutes workbook. No overwhelm, no hours of content. Just what you need to start making sense of what's happening.
Why is it free?
Because I was exactly where you are.
I didn't know what was happening to me. And I wasted years going in the wrong direction because nobody explained what I actually needed to understand.
This mini course is what I wish someone had given me back then. If it helps you find your starting point faster, that's enough for me.
Carlos
If you’re tired of feeling like it goes out of control when it matters most… this is where you start changing it
When you have tried everything you could but you keep having the same reactions and self-sabotaging yourself, it might be your system reacting to something deeper. Trauma.
In this free and easy mini course you’ll learn:
What’s driving your reactions.
Why they feel automatic.
How to start changing them.
6 mini-lessons (1 per day) + practical exercises and tips delivered to your email so you start noticing real changes from the very first week.
Understand Your Trauma.
And How to Work on Yourself.
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